Smart girls, would you date a guy who’s “dumber” than you?

Scientists at the University of Buffalo, have found that men find smart women ‘sexy’, but only in theory. A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that ‘psychological distance’ makes an intelligent woman more attractive. It found that for all the claims by some heterosexual men that they would like a woman who is more intelligent, when confronted with one, men tend to be less attracted to a woman who outsmarted them. While previous studies of attraction have suggested that proximity makes someone more appealing, the Buffalo study found the reverse when the woman was smarter than the man especially if he had claimed he was attracted to that quality. When men expected to interact with a woman who was spatially distant e. However, when men interacted with a real woman who was spatially near e. Park suggested that men, when interacting with a woman who is smarter than them, can feel a ‘momentary shift in their self-evaluation’ such as feeling emasculated , which leads them to feel less attracted to smarter woman. The disconnect could be between how they feel when there is ‘psychological distance’ and how they feel in situations where ‘social comparison’ takes place. There is a disconnect between what people appear to like in the abstract when someone is unknown and when that same person is with them in some immediate social context. The studies also found that this disconnect between abstract and the reality of meeting a woman, only occurred when the ‘domain’, in this case intelligence , mattered to the man.

Men can be ‘too smart’ to date

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19 votes, 91 comments. Dating/LTR/Marriage Would it bother you if you were smarter than your man? Why?

I have never related so much to a comment lol my boyfriend tries to act more intelligent than he is and it’s frustrating when I correct him on something or I say a pun he doesn’t get then I feel bad because he seems upset about it but I never want to dumb myself down for a guy. I really like him and in my late 20s I really have to think about what happens if I let go of him. He’s a good person and very lovingly romantic, that’s the only negative I can really point out and no one is perfect right?

What you stated is completely true I appreciate it. Why can’t you be with someone -you- don’t find intelligent?

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There’s nothing more exciting or promising than the start of a new relationship. It’s a special, precious time in the dating game when we project endless Confess The Moment They Knew They Were Dating Someone Stupid.

And anyway, it’s kind of crass to go around proclaiming to everyone who’ll listen that you’re a genius. But now that it’s just the two of us, we can be honest. If you really are a genius — or at least smarter than average — you deserve to find out. Below, we’ve rounded up 13 common signs of high intelligence, drawn largely from a Quora thread and supported by scientific evidence. Frank Zhu says “people who can focus for long stretches at a time and tune out distractions” are highly intelligent.

As evidence, he points to a paper published in the journal Current Biology. The paper describes two small studies that found people with higher scores on an IQ test were slower to recognize large background movements in an image. That’s likely because they focus on the most important information and filter out the rest.

The smarter you are, the more you’re inclined to stay up into the wee hours of the morning, according to research. One study, published in in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, looked at the link between childhood IQ and sleep habits among thousands of young adults. Sure enough, smarter individuals said they stayed up later and woke up later on both weekdays and weekends.

Another study, published in in the same journal, looked at about US air force recruits and yielded similar findings. Several Quora users noted that intelligent people are flexible and able to thrive in different settings. As Donna F Hammett writes, intelligent people adapt by “showing what can be done regardless of the complications or restrictions placed upon them.

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Sign up to the Life newsletter for daily tips, advice, how-tos and escapism. I also love sharing new information with people, so being able to teach her new things is really fun. I remember having a conversation last week that went from climate change to milkshakes real quick. Not educated to the dismay of my science jokes but quick-witted, intelligent and clever.

And then sometimes I wonder how anyone could be that stupid..

And then sometimes I wonder how anyone could be that stupid. You can name almost any topic and I will know more about it than she That doesn’t mean I know every detail about every subject, but I like to be up to date.

Subscriber Account active since. Ever wonder why your best friend — a total genius with the biggest brain and warmest heart — is dating some “loser” in your eyes who doesn’t treat her nearly as well as you know she deserves? Or why your colleague whose shoes you dream of filling someday comes to the office every morning complaining about her husband’s absolutely cringe-worthy behaviors? Well, research says that these types of women are actually more likely to become “addicted” to toxic men than others.

In other words, the people you’d never expect to fall for those who treat them horribly are So why do women with such high standards in seemingly every other aspect of their lives seem to have such low standards in relationships? It’s a lot more complicated than you’d think — and in the end, it has next to nothing to do with low standards or weaknesses! Successful women are successful because they’ve put in the work.

They know that commitment reaps rewards, and they apply that same attitude in their relationships.

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Tekstweergave: A A A. Dating an intelligent person can be a double-edged sword. Being physically attractive is not enough anymore. More and more people are gauging their partners based on man man skills, interest depth and intellectual achievements.

When it comes to physical attractiveness, for instance, we tend to think that we have managed to attract someone who is even hotter than us.

Dear E. Jean: I’ve met the man of my dreams. He’s incredibly gorgeous, and we have amazing, mind-blowing sex nightly—and usually daily as well. He’s kind, morally upstanding, open-minded, and accepting, without a cynical or jaded bone in his body. He’s a hard worker, generous he paid my rent when I was in a car wreck and couldn’t work , and is always there for my friends and family. On top of everything, he’s funny and fun to be with, and I have zero doubt he’ll be nothing short of an amazing husband and father.

However, there’s one problem: He’s dumb. He can hold a fairly intelligent conversation and reads good books, though how much he understands is up for debate. My last boyfriend was supersmart, and I found him intellectually stimulating, yet he was a raging asshole with a huge ego and a penchant for screwing anything that moved particularly year-old women, even though he’s 35! While my new boyfriend challenges me to be a better person, he doesn’t challenge me intellectually the way my ex did.

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He was the only guy with enough balls to approach you— some guys are intimidated by successful women , after all—so you think that he deserves a chance. You might not give up on him. You think you can change him. Maybe he just needs to quit drinking so much. Or maybe he just needs to work through his massive trust issues.

7 Signs of True Love From a Man When Gabriel and I started dating, there were times when everything was Or dumber than you really are.

I have a mini-confession to make: I wrote the Tao of Dating books specifically for really smart people. The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus as I observed them as an advisor and, earlier, indulged in them as a student. Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to have the same dating woes — only now with fewer single people around who happen to live in the same building and share meals with them every day.

So if they had challenges then, it gets about 1, times worse once they’re tossed from the warm womb of their alma mater. From my observations, the following dating challenges seem to be common to most smart people. In fact, the smarter you are, the more clueless you will be, and the more problems you’re going to have in your dating life. Once upon a day I used to be pretty smart, and believe me, I had a lock on clueless.

On the one hand, this makes no sense.

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Your partner is already at home, curled up on the sofa with a book. He has not put the water on to boil like you asked because he was too engrossed in reading Normal People. Over dinner, he wants to discuss the book, and also have you read that 10,word essay in the New Yorker about prison abolition that he sent you last week yet? Personally I believe that men are inherently unable to read have you ever sent a man a shopping list with clear instructions only for him to return home with nothing you asked for?

What you need is a guide, Miss Dense. Here are your 7 Rules for Picking a Smart Boyfriend: 1. A “gorgeous” boyfriend is better than an ugly.

August 22, pm Updated August 22, pm. Published in the British Journal of Psychology , the paper states that women want men to be smart, but not too smart. Data shows that a man who is more intelligent than 90 percent of the population is most desirable — more so than one who is cleverer than 99 percent. Scientists asked people to rate the desirability of potential partners based on different levels of intelligence, looks, how easygoing they were and kindness.

Those who are in the top percentile of intelligent people also tend to suffer from conditions like obsessive-compulsive disorder. The study went on to say that if very high IQ levels are associated with negative biological or social characteristics, then perhaps highly intelligent men are getting a raw deal. Read Next. Someone dumped coolers of fish heads near school in Alaska. This story has been shared , times. Learn More.

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